We’ve gone through a lot together, from picking out makeup to popping pimples. Let’s unwind and don’t be afraid to talk about sex—specifically, these sex misconceptions that you as a South Asian women could believe but shouldn’t.
Sex is supposed to be like porn
Pornography is a deception. Particularly mainstream porn that caters to masculine desires. In them, women are utilised only as objects to appeal to their male counterparts. Let’s not forget that women are constantly demonstrated to like being used in this way. However, most women do not find this type of intimacy to be joyful or sexually empowering.
Women don’t indulge in masturbation
In India, being told that women should not masturbate leads to shameful experiences that prevent women from exploring their sexuality and opening up about their bodies. Your brain works furiously to produce a variety of hormones and neurochemicals when you orgasm. Serotonin and dopamine, for example, give you a sense of pleasure and happiness.
Too much sex will ruin your vagina
Your vaginal muscle is incredibly elastic and will not stretch out after use. A few myths were invented solely to blame women for participating in sexual activity in society.
It is okay to fake your orgasm to make your partner feel better
Have open and honest communications about your sexual desires with your partner as faking orgasm will have neither of you.
Virginity is real
Virginity is a social construct. Period. It is used to limit women’s sexuality. it also deems a woman being worthy for her sexual ‘purity’, which leads to slut-shaming and sex-shaming. society’s obsession with virginity is a bubble that that needs to be broken.
What works for men doesn’t work for women and it’s frustrating why something we’ve known for more than 2000 years (it’s made clear in The Kama Sutra) still isn’t widely accepted.